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Books are a special and valuable commodity. We want our children and students to respect books. Long before our time, children and adults alike were kept from books. Wealthy families provided their children with the luxury of literature but for many community members - books were something to be longed for. Everything changed after the installment of public libraries. People of every walk, race, color, sex, religion and economic status were given the freedom to read!
Does that mean everyone takes advantage of the library? Sadly, no. However, it does mean that anyone who wants to read will likely find access to a plenitude of books...just minutes from their dwelling place. Even though we may attempt to instill a respect of books in our children, many kids love to tear them up. Our daughter was one of those children. Soon after birth she promoted herself to Book Tearer Extraordinaire. She ripped chapter books, short stories, collector books and even managed to shred board books right down the binding line (the only books she never tore up were her PCS books - but that's another article altogether). Here is a photograph demonstrating a tad bit of her handywork, many months ago:
This book happened to be a favorite of her brother, back when he was younger. He was quite devastated that the book's desmise ended in such a horrific and tragic way. My mother has worked in schools and classrooms for as long as I can remember. I phoned her up one day, in tears, and said: "Mom. She just won't stop. Every paper book we had on the kid's bookshelf has been annihilated. She seems to find great joy in tearing up our books. Help me!" My mother replied: "Go to the Dollar Store. Buy her some coloring books. Tell her she is allowed to rip those up. Some kids just love to hear the RIP sound. Give her cheap books to tear up and explain that every other book is off limits. That will hopefully satisfy her urge to tear." It worked. We explained to our daughter that the coloring books were hers to do with as she pleased. If she wanted to tear them up, fine. However, all other books were off limits. We allowed her to rip, tear and destroy the coloring books - to her heart's content. Within a few months, she had passed through the phase of tearing books. At that point, her father took her to the local library and allowed her to check out her very first library book. Oh, the joy!
ABOUT the Author: Shara Lawrence-Weiss is the owner of Mommy Perks, Kid Perks and Personal Child Stories. She has a background in early childhood, nanny work, published freelance, marketing and special needs.
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Everything changed after the installment of public libraries. People of every walk, race, color, sex, religion and economic status were given the freedom to read!

Comments
I am so sadden by all the books that have been ripped up in my house. My question is do you think that old magazines would also work? If not, I'm so going to Target tomorrow to buy some cheap coloring books. They usually have dollar ones right at the front of the store.
Our books just cannot take the abuse. This morning I found her in the process of starting to rip a 60 year old book and I about had a heart attack. She also got a new pop up book for her birthday and the day after, the pop ups were ripped out of the book. I tried to explain to her that we don't rip up books, but how do you rationally explain that to a two year old.
Save the books! I'm really careful with the library books. I always get the hard books so she can't really hurt them.
Yes! Old magazines work well, also. We allow her to tear those up, too. I have to be careful with those because there are some magazines (TIME and Instructor, to name two) that I save. The articles are so good in some of those issues and I don't want her ripping those ones up. I put the ones I want to save up and out of her reach. The magazines she is allowed to rip are sitting in the living room - within her reach.
We explained all of this to hear at the age of two. She did understand so give it a try. Your daughter might just understand even if she cannot verbalize that yet
I'm sure she understands what I'm saying to her, but I just have to make sure she is paying attention to me when I tell her. I know she remember things that I tell her cause she will bring up something that I told her awhile back. So she does retain information. Goodbye Magazines. Hello to Saving Books!
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