- Published on Sunday, 15 May 2011 07:30
Experiences make the difference. People are a product of them. The more positive and productive they are the more positive and productive the person will be. Experiences take place 24 hours a day, seven days a week, 52 weeks a year, and every year. There is no break. Every minute is important. While every child should have the finest experiences, every parent who should know how to provide them.
Teach your child with love to feel capable.
Your child has many everyday successes that generally go unnoticed. Be on the lookout for these and point them out whenever you can. In the morning you might say something like, “You got ready on time.” On the way out the door you might try, “You were a good friend to Ryan yesterday.” At night it might be, “You brushed your hair well.” The more you notice successes, even small or routine ones, the more your child is likely to continue to succeed.
In addition, talk to your child about his or her abilities and talents. There are many kinds—reading, math, singing, sports, making friends, etc. Your recognition of different areas of capability boosts your child’s self-concept.
NOTE: This descriptive approach is not praise. While praising can create a dependency on it, pointing out capability just adds to your child’s internal positive sense of self.
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